Thank You Songs

LINER

Sequence Productions, Suite 201, 19 Mercer Street, Toronto, ON  M5V 1H2, (416) 217-0505


Produced byAngelo Oddi of Sequence Productions, Engineer:  Adam Smith, Background music arranged and performed by Angelo Oddi.

Cover Photo: Boris Spremo, The Toronto Star, Cover Design and Production: Michael Smith





Dedicated to Janet, Bram and Joanna.

In honor of Philo van Enckevort.


© 1999 Harry van Bommel

PSD Consultants, 11 Miniot Circle, Scarborough, ON  M1K 2K1, (416) 264-4665, 1-877-HARRYVB [427-7982]

www.legaciesl.ca


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I helped both of my parents and grandfather to live at home until they died. Thank You is a collection of songs to provide comfort and hope to those experiencing similar losses. The tape begins and ends with the song Thank You. This song is written from the point of view of the person who died  who is thanking you for all you did for them within the limits of your circumstances. Their gratitude is a starting point for our healing.


Grief can hurt physically, emotionally and spiritually. It Hurts looks at this real physical response to grief. Our tears and pain are often overwhelming with the only words to describe it as "it hurts". No one can survive unending grief. It must change for us to survive. We change our response to the pain to help ourselves continue to live and be part of  our families and community and in memory of the person who has died.


Always with Me is a song of gratitude that the people we love now, and have loved in the past, remain part of us forever. Their memories, their advice, their positive examples remain with us and guide us. The song is also a prayer of thanks to God for always being present to provide us with strength and comfort.


A Child is Born reminds us of the purity of love and joy experienced at the birth of a child. May the words remind us all of the blessings we share in the human family when a new born joins us.


In my family, the hymn Ave Maria has been played at weddings, special holidays and funerals. I often whistle it on solitary walk in a forest. Its soothing melodic cycle allows me to whistle it for a long time and I lose myself in the music. Such times remind me of all that I have lost but also all that I have to live for and to enjoy. After my father died, I realized that I had spent so much grieving my mother and grandfather's deaths that I had not enjoyed enough of  the remaining time I had with him. Grief does not have to exclude those still living. In fact, I believe that in loving and helping those who are still with us, we pay the ultimate honor to those who have died.


Remembering you childhood may bring back idyllic memories or times of fear, hatred or sadness. For most of us there are elements of both. Our memories are mixed. What is true for all of us, however, is that our childhood forms our character. Some of what we do is based on what we loved best about our elders. Others thoughts and actions are the opposite to how they did things. Stories are a Gift highlights the power within our stories to help us behave more positively in the future. Stories are also a gift if we can learn how our elders dealt well with grief and tragedy.


The Human Family is a reminder that we are all brothers and sisters within the human family regardless of how we look, what we do, and what gifts we have to offer. So much of our lives are spent dividing “us” from “them” at home, at school, at work, at play, and within our communities. It is in dividing ourselves that we cause grief to others and to ourselves. We lose the ability to see that each of us has something to offer the other. The song is offered in hopes that each of us returns to the spontaneous and true joy that we felt as infants when we experienced unconditional love and acceptance within the human family.


When Can Our Children Be Proud? is a song about doing what we know to be right. We know how to help others. We know how to provide comfort to those who are in physical or emotional pain. We know how to make a difference in people’s lives because we know how we would like to be treated by others. Like us, our parents knew what to do but they may not always have done what is right either. We can learn from that too. Whatever we learned, we need to use the lessons of our youth to do the right things now to the point when our children, and all the children within our communities, can look at us and say, “You did the right thing – we are proud of you.”


Often when I give a speech I see elderly wives and husbands sitting in the audience, holding hands. They are clearly still in love and it is inspiring. I imagine that their lives have been a mixture of joy and hardship, just like our lives. At the Other End of Young Love reflects on what the love of a kindred spirit means to someone. When that kindred spirit dies, the loss is overwhelming yet there are memories of decades together that no one can take away. The gift of a life lived with a kindred spirit is irreplaceable and it can always give us strength and comfort.


A common theme of all the songs is gratitude. Your gratitude for everything you have now and in the past will help you through the most difficult times. These times are not easy. The path has been walked by others, like me. We share this path together and we can learn from each other. When you are ready, you will be able to help someone else walk this path. What a gift it will be. How grateful both of you will be for the gift.


Your are in my thoughts and my prayers.  Harry van Bommel


1. Thank You © March 1992


My lessons of love, my parents gave to me. I see them reflected in the hospice philosophy. These are the things that I am grateful for.

Thank you.


The warmth of your smile, the love you give so much. The depth within your hearts, and the strength within your touch. These are the things

that I am grateful for. Thank you.


The roar of your laugh, a tear of empathy. Our bond through silence, a friend for eternity. These are the things that I am grateful for.

Thank you.


The gift of your hugs, God's spirit in your eyes. Will each day prepare us, for our last goodbyes. These are the things that I am grateful for.

Thank you.  Thank you. 



2.It Hurts © May 1997


It hurts, it hurts to say goodbye. It hurts, it hurts, I always cry. It hurts, it hurts, I miss you. What am I to do?


It hurts, it hurts, the pain won't go away. It hurts, it hurts in every way. It hurts, it hurts, words cannot tell every day's a living, a living hell.


Chorus:

You were my life. You taught me oh so much. I love you dear. And I miss your touch. God help me, To set you free.


It hurts, it hurts to say goodbye. Yes it hurts, it hurts, I always cry. It hurts, it hurts, I miss you. What am I to do?


Chorus:


It hurts, it hurts to say goodbye. It hurts, it hurts, I always cry. It hurts, it hurts, but I will get through. I'll do it for me and for you. For me and for you.

For me and for you.



3.Always With Me ©  February 1995


You were, you are, you will be, I'm grateful to say, always with me. You were, you are, you will be, always with me.


In times of joy; in moments of sadness, you give me hope and strength, and fill my heart with gladness. You walk beside or you carry me,

You're always with me.


I need your peace.  I crave your spirit. With love I can sing, gather round and hear it. You were, you are, Yyou will be, I'm grateful to say, always with me. You were, you are, you will be, always with me.


When I am alone and no one cares for me, you fill my thoughts with loving memories. You remind me of all that I have. You're always with me.


I need your peace.  I crave your spirit. With love I can sing, gather round and hear it. You were, you are, you will be, I'm grateful to say, always with me. You were, you are, you will be, always with me.



4.A Child is Born © 1991, revised 1992


A child is born in Bethlehem. A child is born to teach us again. To teach us of love, to teach us of love. A child is born to teach us of love.


God's gift to us is the birth of any child. A child shows us God is by our side. A child teaches us to look beyond and share our world; this is our bond.


We are blessed with a child from above. We know that our friends share in our love. A love that is real and always strong. A child is born to teach us we belong.


Now that we have our gift from above, we are relearning these lessons of love. When he smiles it comforts our soul. When he laughs, he helps makes us whole.


A child is born in Bethlehem. A child is born to teach us again. To teach us of love. To teach us of love. A child is born to teach us of love.



5. Ave Maria Franz Schubert's version was composed in 1825 inspired by Walter Scott's Lady of the Lake.



6. Stories are a Gift ©  November 1995


Opening Lines:

When we remember, we need to remember, our families. When we remember, we need to remember, our families.

We grew from their hearts. We can never be apart. Stories are a gift.


Chorus:

From our past we know we all belong. In our future we know we can be strong. We've known pain. We know how love feels. Stories can help us to heal.


Opening Lines +

They loved and they fought their learned and they taught. Stories are a gift.

Chorus


Opening Lines +

Their stories tell us how, we can live together now.

Stories are a gift.

Chorus



7. The Human Family ©  December  2001


Can you see the person I see? Can you talk to him like you talk to me? Can you? Will you? Please do.

We are not different you see. No more special or needy are we. We are you. You are we. Thank God.


Chorus

We are the children, brothers and sisters. We are the human family. Words that divide us oh, they harm us. Let us unite and be free.


All of us need to eat. All of us need a friendship that’s deep. Can you, will you be a friend?

We need a home like you. We need days full of real meaning too. We are you. You are we. Thank God.


Chorus


Can you see the person I see? Can you talk to her like you talk to me? Can you? Will you? Please do.

We are not different you see. No more special or needy are we. We are you. You are we. Thank God.


We are the children, brothers and sisters. We are the human family. Words that divide us oh, they harm us. Let us unite and be free. Let us unite and be free.



8. When Can Our Children Be Proud? © February 2001


When, oh when, will we do what is right? When, oh when, will we use our might? When, oh when, can our children be proud? When can they shout out loud?


Our parents knew, what to do. Our parents showed us the way. Our parents knew, what to do. Now we know it too.


We can’t blame other people any more. We can stop the suffering and the horror. We have the skills to answer their prayers. We know what to do show we care!


Our parents knew, what to do. Our parents showed us the way. Our parents knew, what to do. Now we know it too.


When, oh when, will we do what is right? When, oh when, will we use our might? When, oh when, can our children be proud? When can they shout out loud?


Our parents knew, what to do. Our parents showed us the way. Our parents knew, what to do. Now we know it too.


Now we can do it together. Now we can make life better. Now we can do what is right.



9. At the Other End of Young Love © September 2002


At the other end of young love a deeper love can be found. At the other end of young love my kindred spirit and I are bound.


We have felt what puppy love can be. We know the joy of intimacy. We still remember our first kiss. These years together we’ll never miss.


At the other end of young love are years of struggle and of pride. At the other end of young love my kindred spirit is still my bride.


We are blessed way beyond words. Our children have grown through our love. Our future is built upon our past as we live through love from above.


At the other end of young love a deeper love can be found. At the other end of young love my kindred spirit and I are bound.


We have felt what puppy love can be. We know the joy of intimacy. We still remember our first kiss. These years together we’ll never miss.

These years together we’ll never miss. These years together we’ll never miss.

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